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The Photographer Amateur

I've always loved photography. My dad majored in photography and although I wasn't around him as much I always knew that he was passionate about photography. When I'd visit him in New York, I got to do photo shoots growing up. He'd dress me up in straw hats and feathered boas, hang a fabric up in his apartment, set up his equipment and shoot away. It was a fun experience and I learned a lot from him. Now he's a respiratory therapist living in Seattle with his wife and two little beautiful babies. One day I hope he gets to do what he loves again. There is no doubt that I picked up a love of photography from him. Here's some photography I took on my iphone on the Brooklyn Bridge with my friend Scotty.

Subway Encounter 2

An older black man came up to me at broadway junction while I was reading. "Did I bother you with my loud talking on the train," he said in a catty tone. I looked up from my book and replied "yea, but I was able to tune you out."  I knew he was trying to start a conversation with me. "You know, I never seen a tall young woman carry herself the way you do." He tried to explain how I look intelligent and not a lot of black people know how to read. Of course I wasn't impressed with that remark. "It's because I carry a book, I'm intelligent," I replied. He got stumped and then tried to compliment me. He basically said I look smart but he couldn't elaborate when I said why. "I have a big forehead?" I said with a frown. He disagreed and quickly changed the topic since that conversation was obviously going nowhere.

He asked me my age and I told him 21. He looked down nodding his head as his eyebrows furrowed together as if he was thinking hard about something. He said he's a comedian then refused to make me laugh without charging me 5 dollars. I looked at him and shrugged, but this stranger did not give up. He then gets into talking about comedians like Kevin Hart who used his tough life to make people laugh. That's what he wanted to do. He loved making people laugh, but for a price I presume. Then out of the blue he jumps into a Martin impersonation which made me laugh hysterically. Suddenly I was interested in this 36 year old man. He messed all that up when he said he has "a lot" of girlfriends. I looked at him blankly waiting for a reason as to why he brought that up. 

Then a concerned look appeared on his face and he motioned his hands in a way explaining that he was not trying to hit on me. We exchanged questioning looks and leaned back at the same time. The fact we acted the same way, had us laughing so hard we took a couple of steps away from each other cracking up. I then knew he could be a good friend regardless of his age or demeanor. He told me little about his life, his name and email in which I don't remember neither of them. But I hope to see him around sometime. Although I was late to work, he truly made my day in the subway station that day. 

Subway Encounter

To get to work I take the subway. Almost everyday I hop on the j to the c to get to my destination. Right when I get off at broadway junction I get a guy or a couple guys doing some sus stuff. Like the other day this guy said in my ear "you're too pretty to be looking down" Done scared me out of my mind! I didn't even turn my head to glance at whomever said that, I just winced at the creepiness I just had experienced. This black man failed to think that I could be looking down for a moment to watch my step. What do these guys think, I got low self esteem. No negro, my esteem is far from that. Nonetheless I keep moving and let the voice that came from his creepy little mouth drift from my mind. It's so funny how strangers feel like they know you. Anyways, f**k them. :)

No Boobs? No Problem: Fashion Tips & A Confidence Boost

If you're flat chested I know you're asking "God, why have you made me flat chested". Not being able to fill out your low tops are the worst. Being with guys who tell you that your chest looks like a little girl’s is even more worse. Yes you can get breast implants but you and I both know we don't have money for that. But don't lose hope, here are some ways to flatter what's lack thereof. No pun intended.

Horizontal stripes are my best friend. It creates an illusion of bigger boobs. You can wear more attention grabbing tops too like glitter for example on a night out.

Wear higher necklines  That's pretty self explanatory. You have nothing to show so yep. You can still be sexy with a high neckline.

If you have a wide chest, no boobs like yours truly, stay away from low scoop tops and v necks, it makes your chest appear big and boobs small.

Aside from tops you can always wear padded bras. Victoria’s secret has the best push up bras for $60. Target carries super padded bras like VS but there no more than $15. You can even try water bras. Water bras freak me out just because I think they might leak but I had a friend who was transgender back in high school and of course he had no boobs but they made it look pretty realistic.

Aside from figuring out what you wear, don't feel so bad about your itty bitties. There's plenty upsides of having a small chest.
1. We don't have to worry about saggy boobs and stretch marks in the future. This is a huge win.
2. No heaviness and bad backs. Girls with big boobs always complain about how heavy they are. Psh. Okay, I guess I understand.
3. We don't get negative attention from pigs(guys). I appreciate the guys who are attracted to a pretty face and a nice personality.
4. We don't have to wear bras, and we can do more activities.

So in the end small boobies are a beautiful thing. Be proud of them, name them, push them up or let them free. It's your confidence that makes them sexy.